“So Boaz took Ruth, and she became his wife. And he went in to her, and the Lord gave her conception, and she bore a son.”
Second, we see that God’s design for marriage is that it is a covenant made before witnesses. The most important witness is God. That’s why we say in a wedding ceremony, “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the presence of these witnesses, to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony.” So, whether the wedding is held in a church building, like mine and Cindy’s, or in a garden, like Adam and Eve’s, or at a city gate, there should be a public declaration of vows. That’s why a man and woman promise to each other, out loud, “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death parts us.” They make those promises before God.
Third, we see that God’s design for marriage includes consummation after the wedding and as an essential part of the covenant relationship. Boaz and Ruth had sex after marriage, but not before. That’s God design. First the courtship. Then the covenant. Then the consummation. Sex was God’s idea, and it is a great one, but only within the confines of marriage.
The old analogy is still a good analogy. Imagine a cold winter evening, and you are sitting in the living room with your family gathered around, sipping hot chocolate while a fire roars in the fireplace. The fire is a wonderful blessing, warming the home on a bitter night. Now imagine the same scenario, but the fire is not in the fireplace. It’s in the living room.
The sofa and the rug and the walls are engulfed in flames. Same fire, wrong place. Now the fire is a tragedy that destroys the home.
When we remove the physical act of love from the spiritual covenant of marriage, it will destroy. Think of David, the man after God’s own heart. He did not court Bathsheba. He lusted after her. She was a pornographic image, if you will, whom David saw from his rooftop. He did not make a covenant with Bathsheba.
There were no wedding vows before witnesses. She was another man’s wife. There was only consummation, out of place. David took the physical and divorced it from the spiritual, from God’s design for marriage, and the fire nearly destroyed the house.
Want a good love story? Read the book of Ruth.
J. Mark Fox is the author of “A Faithful Man” and the pastor of Antioch Community Church on Power Line Road in Elon. You can Tweet him @jmarkfox and can find all of Mark’s books on Amazon or other online sellers. Email Mark at firstname.lastname@example.org